Tuesday, August 08, 2006

CWO - Stumbling

Captain’s Log, Stardate 08.08.2006

Blog book giveaway:
My Thursday book giveaway is THE SIMPLE LIFE by Wanda Brunstetter.
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"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand."
~ Emily Kimbrough ~

Check out Christian Women Online (click on the button above) to see what other women are blogging about this quote!

I have to say that God came through for me in this area. I’m not an extrovert, but He knew I needed sisters in Christ both online and locally in order to continue on this writing career.

I didn’t seek these women out, they found me (with the Holy Spirit prodding them). Some of them are listed in my Blogroll to the right. They have held my hand, prayed for me, picked me up, prayed for me, kicked me in the butt, and prayed for me.

This doesn’t just apply to writers. There are so many women who are alone who don’t need to be. I’m not an extrovert, but God brought sisters in Christ into my life despite that. He can do it for anybody.

He brought exactly the type of women I needed, not the type of women I wanted. I only had to be open to His will for me, His timing, His plans—not my own ideas of the types of friends I wanted in my life.

I see this yearning in the teen girls at church—they want a best friend, a specific type of person, or a certain personality. They have their own secret requirements of what that person should be like, what that person will do for them.

I try to get them to understand that it’s not what that one special person will give to them, but what they can give to others around them. God will make them into a friend for others, and then bring friends and support into their lives.

I think it’s because support is mutual. I tell my teen girls that they can’t have a healthy friendship or relationship if they’re constantly taking, needing, complaining, or wanting. They have to ask God to teach them how to give of themselves, so that the relationship is symbiotic.

Do you know women who need that circle of Christian sisters? Are you one of them? Let’s remember to pray for all of us—that we can listen to God’s prodding in our own lives, and that God will give us a hand to hold for when we stumble.


This brainstorming is the part I love and hate the most. It’s slooooooooooow. But it’s fun. But it’s slooooooooooow.

This is my brainstorming wall—er, closet. Praise God for Post-It notes for visual people like me. I’m currently trying to figure out what happens in my second book, and the synopsis is due . . . about a month from now.

Unlike my previous books, for this one I actually have to make deadline, because I’m getting paid for it (hey, how about that) and people would actually get upset at me if I didn’t turn it in.

This “performing under pressure” gig is not pleasant, but I can’t complain too much because I’m under contract for a change. I’m no longer a poor, starving artist—I’m just poor.

Would I be doing anything else? Nope. But my brain is tying itself in knots as I stare at that wall—er, closet.

Diet: Still doing Denise Austin, although yesterday I ate relatively well—salad for lunch, lots of veggies for dinner even if I did eat a larger portion of fish in Szechwan hot sauce than I should have. But it was fish! Fish is good, right? Omega fats and all that? Never mind that it was fish drowning in spicy saucy yummy goodness . . .


  1. You are right. We all need each other to build each other up. And God does know who needs to be in our life. He just sents the right ones in different seasons of our life.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  2. exactly the type of women I needed, not the type of women I wanted.

    Oh I love that quote, soooo true. But I praise God for it!!

  3. It is amazing how God brings people and friends and strong Christians to us introverts, isn't it?

    : )

    I love your writing wall!! What a great idea!

  4. 1 Thess. 5:11 one of my favorite verses!
    Thanks for your amazing words!
    and I love the writing wall!

  5. Camy,

    I long for the day when I will be under a REAL deadline, not just one imposed by myself! I think I'd probably be stressed, but it would mean that someone was actually paying me to write! How cool would that be! My books published by Wings Press don't really pay me enough to count, but at least I have a couple of books out there somewhere! However, to be published by the "big boys"...That's my dream! Keep going.

  6. Great post! I love your brainstorming closet! When I write,I tend to not know where I'm going until I get there, which can be good and bad.

  7. Great post. Right now I feel like one of those women who is alone. I know I am not as I have lots of friends online who speak and share with me daily. But in the real physical world I am lacking and know that is what I am seeking. Your words are true words that maybe instead of seeking someone to be my friend I need to seek someone to be a friend too!

  8. Thank God for friends and your post-it closet is great! I may try that idea.

  9. I'm like the teen aged girls always seeking a best friend. I'm 41 and still doing that!

  10. Yeah, I guess we seek "best" friends all our lives, especially if we move with changing circumstances.

    I have a very good friend who's stuck with me through thick and thin but she lives in Germany and I live in Canada. She's also not on the same wavelength regarding the Christian life, nor are most of my other long-time friends.

  11. I guess I really do feel isolated from other people.

    Just got another bit of a blow. I had hoped to go to a shower about 100 miles from here on Sunday with my sister-in-law and my nieces. Turns out the whole family is headed in another direction entirely. All the other people going from my area have other agendas like going earlier and staying longer. You have to do that sort of thing in order to make the money you spend on gas worthwhile.

    Since I have no car, I'm trying to figure out how to get away from here for a while where I'm all by my lonesome--except for my very best friend, Jesus, who never fails me.

    So I totally empathize with you, reverberate58. I too feel alone despite a visit from friends yesterday. But they live almost 200 miles away and I hadn't seen them since my mother's memorial service almost 3 years ago.

  12. Great comments, Camy. I have to learn over and over again that it's not about me. I need to be reaching out.


  13. I so love your wall. I pine for a wall of my own. Well, maybe PINE is an exaggeration, but a space of my own would be nice. It looks like you make good use of yours. Getting paid must be the biggest bonus! I only hope I know someday.

  14. I appreciate your writing about encouraging the girls in your church about friendships. I think girls can get so catty and hurtful with each other. They need good examples in us "older women"!

  15. That was my above comment. I don't know what happened! :)

  16. Enjoyed this post. Much wisdom there. But wow, what a wall! Maybe that's what I need to do when i decide to start my book! I'm a little visual myself. Thanks, Camy.